Pre dating questions
You know those questions you have always wanted answered? This series will include questions about the pre-dating friendship, dating, and physical, emotional and spiritual boundaries. God has taught me a lot about guys, dating, and purity the last few years and I’m glad my pain is now being used for good. Groups is best for the early stages of the relationship. The world tells you that you should constantly spend alone time together. Groups are the best way to get to know someone and protect your heart. Instead, I wanted to get to know the man he had become, not the man that he was. If you go too deep too fast and then end up not dating, you will feel exposed, lost, and even more hurt. In college, I dated a guy who was the “great” Christian guy in our college ministry. Serving is a huge sign that this man will serve and lead you and your relationship. Life will happen, and you will see how he reacts to life.
If you have any other questions about Biblical dating that are not discussed, ask them below in the comment section. God is using my painful past to glorify himself – his plan all along. But Biblical dating means you should spend time in groups. I remember clear as day sitting across from the guy I liked on our first hang out (Yes, we were alone. Believe me, the relationship will start off on solid ground if you don’t get too honest and vulnerable too quickly, and you can still get to know someone. The staff and leaders all told me he was a solid guy with a huge faith. Some of his actions did not agree with what others said about him. When you are walking with God, and praying for God to reveal the true authenticity of a man’s heart – God will reveal it. See how he is when he doesn’t get his way, when his car breaks down, or when he fails a test. But if you see continuous patterns of habitual sins, he might not be ready to lead you spiritually.
For 33 years, he served as pastor of Bethlehem Baptist Church, Minneapolis, Minnesota.
He is author of more than 50 books, including Reading the Bible Supernaturally.
If you didn’t have to work to support yourself, how would you spend your time? If you find that you do share common interests, you have an arsenal of ideas for future dates. Who has been the most influential person in your life? How they answer gives you insight into their background, upbringing, and what they value. Plus, being able to talk about other people takes the pressure off of your date. If we end up dating, will either one of us be settling? How will you react if I keep my guard up with you (for a little while, at least)? The thought that my friend is the last "fish in the sea" will tend to create desperation.It's tough to keep in mind, but if you do end the relationship, over time you will likely find more opportunities.